So, as stated in my post Things I’m currently obsessed with, 2.0, I read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey for an assignment in one of my grad school classes. As also stated, I was extremely annoyed that I had to read an entire book in 5 days and write a 10 page paper on it, because, what else would I possibly do with my life?!
However, it turns out my professor was right. This book actually was a good read and was pretty eye-opening to the fact that while I think I am a pretty good person, there is always more you can do to be the best, happiest version of yourself.
This book was broken down into seven habits to make yourself a better you. The first three habits are focused mainly on building your own independence and shifting your perspective of being a dependent person to being an independent person. The next three habits are mastered after you build this sense of independence, and focus on the interdependent side of the world. The final habit focuses on the continuous improvement that will happen over time if you are able to work to find the balance between independence and interdependence in your own personal life.
One of my favorite statements from Covey in this entire book came in chapter 1, not too far into the book at all. He stated that the most positive way you can influence any situation in your life is to firstly work on yourself, on your own being. The most proactive thing we can do is to be truly, genuinely happy and share a genuine smile with those around you. By shifting your focus from negative to positive, to shift your attitude from if only to I will, will help you remain positive and find your true sense of what makes you happy.
Our entire life provides us with so many opportunities, so many chances. It is our job to take these chances and opportunities and develop the capacities to handle all the pressures life throws our way. Everything is a learning experience. You won’t always get it right, but one thing you can always do is own up to your actions. Own up to both your successes and your failures. Assure yourself that it’s okay to “mess up” sometimes.
By taking the time to ask yourself what really matters and allowing time to do the things that mean the most to you rather than every little thing that is thrown your way, you will begin to realize how much time is wasted on things that don’t really matter in the long run.
We all have one life. We all have so many opportunities to find our happiness and share our happiness with others. It’s up to us to take this chance and run with it. We all deserve it. xoxo.