A dose of reality you didn’t know you needed. .

. .packed into 224 pages.

As per the recommendation of a coworker, I most recently read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. I know to some of my readers [sorry Nana!], seeing the word f*ck is not the most appropriate language to spew across a webpage. However, while not totally appropriate, this book was way too good to not talk about.

By just looking at the title of this book, you might wonder why author Mark Manson is so crude and vulgar. However, like many things in life, if you take the time and dig a little deeper below the surface, you will find that this man is inspiring, extremely clever, and philosophical beyond measure. Looking at the title, you would not believe that this book had anything to do about values but, spoiler alert, it is.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life is about finding the things in life that are the most important to you while simultaneously letting go of everything else. Manson encourages limiting our exposure to mindless distractions and limiting our concern about things that have absolutely no value to your life. Is this book brutally honest? Yes. Does it give you a reality check that maybe you didn’t know you needed? Yes. He pulls you out of a sense of denial and forces you to look at the dirt covering you, and to accept it for what it is, while helping you to embrace these truths and lead a life of confidence and empowerment. Manson touches on positivity, being extraordinary, and happiness. Maybe not in the way in which you are used to, but it is there. For example, “F*ck positivity. Let’s be honest; sometimes things are f*cked up and we have to live with it.” Brutally honest, but true.

Manson is straight and to the point, and gets you to confront ourselves, our truths, and our uncertainties while making you dig deep into the emotions that will make you laugh until you cry, or cry until you can’t breathe anymore. This book is deeply inspiring while being disguised in crude, four-letter vulgarity. The best part about this book is that it gets a major point across without being fluffy and cute. In a way, I think that has a slight sense of why I enjoyed this book so much, because cutesy, fluffy butterflies is not me. It’s not my personality and it’s not something that I seek out for. I tend to be more of a realist and see things for the way they are, not sugar coated, not a sense of false reality. If you are looking for unicorns, rainbows, and cupcakes, turn away, because this book offers f-bombs and reality slaps.

While this may sound terrifying or as if I am trying to prevent you from reading this book, I am doing the exact opposite. I am telling you, you should pick this up, download it to your Kindle, whatever you must. Because by the time you finish reading, you will be left with a feeling of promise. You will feel free and light. And you will feel a goodness that only your favorite home-cooked meal can give you; the goodness that can only come with raw, unfiltered truth.

Jaclyn Hill can do no wrong.

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Guys, I did it.

I got my hands on the Jaclyn Hill x Morphe palette.

It took until the third restock to get my hands on this beauty, but you know what they say, third time’s the charm!

For those of you unfamiliar with the goddess that is Jaclyn Hill, she is a beauty blogger/vlogger/YouTuber who is not only drop dead gorgeous, but has the kindest heart and sweetest personality. Also ton be added to her ‘”resume,” she is basically the sole reason that I somewhat know how to apply makeup to my face.

When she announced the creation/launch of her eyeshadow palette collaboration with Morphe cosmetics, it only made sense to me that I had to add this to my ever-growing makeup collection. As stated before, it took me three times to get my hands on this palette, three.

On the morning of restock number three, I literally was so much of a lame-o that I sat by my phone/computer waiting for the clock to strike 11:00am. I kid you not, the second the clock turned to the golden hour, my hands moved quicker than I had ever seen them move before. And I did it. I got it.

I got my palette in the mail on Saturday, almost a week ago, and after playing around with it, I can now see why this is in such high demand. For $38, you get 35 colors, making that a super-affordable $0.92 per pan. I have reached for this palette every single day since I received it – the amount of looks that you can create are endless due to the wide variety of colors. The formula is so creamy, easily bendable, and the colors are gorgeous to a whole new degree.

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[You can see Jaclyn go into detail about her palette here.]

It is my only wish for everyone to be able to get their hands on this palette one day or another, and for everyone to be able to work with this on their own and create their own unique makeup looks. Totally worth the wait, totally a deal, totally perfect. Makeup lovers or not, this is a staple. xoxo.

Things I’m currently obsessed with, 7.0


  1. Girlfriends’ Guide to Divorce. In terms of shows on Netflix, when I start a new one I tend to binge and binge until I am completely through the entire series [or at least what is on Netflix]. This show, let me tell you, is absolutely hilarious all while leaving you on the edge of your seat. It revolves around self-help author Abby McCarthy who finds new friends, new adventures, and a new life after her impending divorce. Basically, her figuring out how to live life again after 17 years of marriage. It’s a hit, and I can’t wait for more.
  2. It’s Not Yet Dark by Simon Fitzmaurice. I made it my mission over this “vacation” to look at the list of top-selling books, to buy one, and to complete it either before vacation ends, or before school begins again. At the rate it is going, this book will be done in no time, as I can’t seem to put it down. A memoir about Mr. Fitzmaurice, who after being diagnosed and struggling with ALS, has gotten an entirely new outlook on life. You will go through every emotion throughout this book, as you learn about this young husband and father of five small children. I’ll be sure to write an overall review as soon as I’ve completed it.
  3. Aveeno Ultra Calming Daily Moisturizer. I will scream it from the rooftops, THIS. MOISTURIZER. HAS. SAVED. MY. LIFE. Well, my face, but you know what I mean. Back in the day, I used to have flawless skin. I know it sounds like I am tooting my own horn when I say that, but compared to now, you would think that we weren’t even the same person. I tried, and tried to find a facial moisturizer that will help with the dryness and the redness on my skin and finally, I found one. I checked out my nearest Target to find this moisturizer, sold for around $12. I’ve been using it in the morning and before night everyday for the past two weeks, and I have seen a complete change in the color and complexion of my skin. I am not scamming you. It works. It really fricken’ works.
  4. Not Your Mother’s Clean Freak Refreshing Dry Shampoo. It wasn’t until the other day when my boyfriend said “you haven’t stopped using that since you bought it” that I realized how obsessed I was with this product. I just became a dry shampoo user within the last six months after buying a travel size bottle to being with me to Long Island for my brothers State hockey tournament. This bad boy saves me multiple mornings a week when my hair is clean enough to go to work without a full wash, but still needs that extra oomph in the morning. This brand runs for just under $5 at Target and comes in multiple scent variations. I haven’t had any problems with any residue and my hair looks great all day after use! 

Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life. What?!?

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I forewarned you a couple weeks back that this post was coming. Well, I just finished watching this revival season a few days ago, and good Lord, I don’t know how to feel after this one.

This season/series/whatever we call it consisted of four 120-minute episodes ever-so-cleverly titled: Winter, Spring, Summer, and Fall. Being the overly obsessive Gilmore Girls fan that I am, I was stoked about this revival. I know I am very, very behind on watching this, but I waited for my mom to finish the “old” series so we could watch these four episodes together.

After watching, I can truthfully say that A Year in the Life really didn’t really live up to my expectations. Some parts were really, really phenomenal while others I sat there thinking to myself, “why?”

If you have not watched it yet [which I’m sure is not the case for most people], do not read ahead, because I am about to break it all the way down to the final credits. Let me forewarn you….my synopses are a jumbled, probably-grammatically-incorrect mess, as I was jotting down thoughts while watching each episode. So, without further ado, enjoy!

Episode 1: Winter – This episode began with Rory journeying back to Stars Hollow to spend time with Lorelai and crew before jet setting off to London [again]. We then get an overview of the little town that we’ve gone without for many years as they make their way home. Everyone looks great, and Kirk now has a cute little pet pig named Petal. In this episode, we meet Rory’s boyfriend Paul that nobody can seem to remember exists. We get a glimpse into Luke and Lorelai’s relationship and see how they are still going strong all these years later, basically ending the cliff-hanger of the then-series-finale as to whether or not they were together at all. We learn how stressed Rory is, as she is not finding as much success she [and we all] believed she would have. Michel got married. Richard passed away. Sookie is well over a year into a six-month sabbatical trying to discover new food growing techniques. Emily now has a new maid, whose family is now living in her house. Emily has clearly been grieving in her own way – we even see her in jeans and a Candie’s tee shirt. I KNOW. We get a flashback to the day/night of Richard’s funeral after seeing Emily ordered a painting of him that was way too large for anyone’s liking. The night of Richard’s funeral, Lorelai got drunk which led to a long-lasting battle between her and Emily, as she did not give a proper tribute to her father that night when asked to share stories of Richard. At dinner, Emily disapproves of Rory’s new no-strings-attached style of living. She has no permanent place of residence, her things are scattered between a multitude of houses, and she is flying back and forth from London quite frequently [more on this later]. Finally, we meet back up with Paris, who is now the owner of a fertility and surrogacy clinic. Loreliai thinks that her and Luke should have another child [hence, the trip to see Paris], but Luke does not agree. Rory flies back to London to meet with a psycho, drunk woman named Naomi, who has plans to allow her to write her biography. All of a sudden, BAM we see Logan and Rory. Together in London. AND THEY ARE KISSING?! What about Paul?! What is going on?! We now learn of their secret together-when-together-separate-when-separate relationship. At the end of the episode, we learn that Emily has begun going to therapy, as per Lorelai’s suggestion. She ended up loving her therapist so much, that she suggested they go toghether. This ends up being really interesting.

Episode 2: Spring – In this episode, Rory is still trying to figure out her relationship with Luke and get back on her feet professionally. Rory and Logan get “caught” by Mr. Huntzberger [UGH] while out to lunch one day, and we are reminded of how she totally wouldn’t make it as a reporter because, duh, she is struggling. Mr. Huntzberger ends up dropping a major bomb…Logan is engaged. To another woman! We learn Odette, his wifey to be, is a French heiress who lives in Paris. We meet Lorelai and Emily’s therapist, Claudia. This ends up being a really sour time for the two of them, as they end up arguing the entire time. We learn that Emily is still mad at Lorelai all these years later for running away when she got pregnant. Back in Stars Hollow, we finally sit in on a Town Hall meeting. Taylor wants to host the first-ever gay pride parade in which he encourages members of the LGBTQ community to come out at the meeting. We get a slightly awkward moment when Gypsy implies Taylor himself may be gay. We learn that the Dragonfly is struggling, which made me so sad because, like, ARE EVERYONE’S DREAMS FAILING HERE?! We learn that before Richard’s death [I am still so sad about this], that he left Luke a large sum of money with hopes he would use it to expand and franchise his business. Luke, of no interest, gave into the pressure by Emily and went with her to check out some potential spots. It is through this “date” that he finds out Emily has quit therapy and Lorelai is continuing to go alone, using the time to talk about her problems with her family and with Luke. Rory and Paris head back to Chilton where we get acquainted with some more old friends to speak to students on alumni day. Headmaster Charleston suggests Rory get her Master’s degree and come back to the school to teach, as he knows of her struggling journalism career. This makes Rory angry, as she does not want to accept the fact she is failing [does anyone?!]. She finally gets a meeting with an editor of GQ which leads her to travel to NYC with Lorelai and eventually eventually leads her to have a one night stand [her first one ever] with a man dressed as a Wookie. This leads Rory to admit to her mother about her relationship with Logan. At the end of this episode, Rory ends up moving back home unannounced, leaving us to wonder…what’s next?

Episode 3: Summer – The most important part of this episode, JESS IS BACK. AND LOOKING HOT AS EVER. We begin this episode with our two favorite ladies, Lorelai and Rory, hanging out by the community pool. Everyone welcomes Rory back and she stresses [basically throughout the entire episode] that she is indeed not back. Just here. Also back?! April. *cringes* I have never been a fan of April, but we learn she has so far been successful. I mean, geez, the girl just graduated from MIT. She is taking the summer before grad school to go travel the world with her friends to support the legalization of marijuana. After a strenuous talk with April in her bedroom, Rory goes outside to the porch to call Logan, suggesting that she fly out to London tomorrow instead of two weeks, only to find out that THE FIANCEE NOW LIVES WITH HIM. But, Logan wants to keep their arrangement the same. She comes out even few weeks, they do their thing, but she just stays in a hotel from now on. *facepalm* We learn of a Stars Hollow-themed musical in next town meeting. I will not talk of this or bring this up at all because I thought this was the most terrible thing they could have done this entire series. It had no businesses being included in this show and it dragged on FOREVER. We learn that Bernie Longbottom, editor of the Stars Hollow Gazette has retired after 89 years. Naturally this spot is open and Rory is jobless, so she takes the job. It is then that we meet Jess again, as he came back to catch up with Luke and popped into the office to see her. He gives her a great idea to write a book about the relationship she and her mother have, and provides her with the immense amount of motivation she needs. We all saw that one coming. Michel is back in town and informs Lorelai that he is leaving the Dragonfly Inn for a better job, as she does not want to expand, etc. Rory surprises Emily at home to see she has moved a TV into her living room and now eats off of a TV tray. *gasp* We are now on gravestone number 5 for Richard, as Emily always finds things wrong with them. Lorelai goes to Emily’s house to find her there with a man, making her upset and causing them to have another fight – this time, Emily brings up the news of taking Luke to franchise the diner, of which he did not tell her. At the cemetery, Rory and Lorelai get into a massive fight over the writing of this book, as Rory was excited about it and Lorelai does not want it to happen. On the way home from the cemetery, still reeling from that fight, Lorelai stops at the diner and picks a fight with Luke. The next day, she went home to tell Luke she would be leaving to live out the Wild book, as she wants to hike the Pacific Crest Trail, leaving him standing there in their kitchen.

Episode 4: Fall – Holy cow, this episode. We start with Lorelai on her adventure to the Pacific Crest Trail to free her mind and cleanse her spirit. We see her struggle because, well, nature, but we see her flourish as she makes friends and finds the clarity she needs in places she didn’t expect. No surprise here, she didn’t hike the trail. Heck, she couldn’t even pack her bag without things exploding everywhere! Did any of us really think she would? Defeated, she takes a drive to find a cafe. It is not open, but around the corner finds open land surrounded by beautiful scenery. It is here that she finally got some closure with Emily, as she is finally able to talk about Richard in a way in which she desired to the night of his funeral. She picks up the phone to call Emily and tells a super heartwarming, tear jerking story about how at age 13, her boyfriend broke up with her in front of her friends at her birthday party. The next day, she tried to look great and make him regret his breakup by stealing her grandmother’s coveted blouse. When she got to school, the boy made fun of her so she fled to the mall. She sat in the food court only to look up and see her father. He let her cry, bought her a pretzel, took her to the movies, and even covered her shirt to avoid confrontation with Emily upon arriving home. Lorelai returns home and confesses her desire to mary Luke [the same way that she did in past episodes], although he thought all this wanting to be free stuff meant she was breaking up with him. He began expressing his love to her, begging her not to leave, reinstating to her how much he really meant. Wedding planning begins! We get more guest appearances this episode from Jesse, Luke, Finn, Colin, Robert, Logan, Dean, and even Chris. [Damn, did Chris not age one bit or what?]. Rory continues to work at the Stars Hollow Gazette. In this episode, she continuously finds some creepy yet perfectly placed clues. I thought she was hallucinating, but when we got a glimpse of Colin, Finn, Robert and Logan. Welcome back Life and Death Brigade! Logan surprised her by arriving in Stars Hollow and whisked her away. They watched movies, went to a tango club, and ended up at an inn in New Hampshire. Logan offers Rory the keys to his family’s house in Maine, so she can be alone and write her book. He rented her her own room that night but, of course, they spent the night together. When she wakes up, she says her final farewell to Logan and the boys, realizing that she cannot live like this anymore. That something has to change. In the midst of this episode, Paul also shoots Rory a text saying he thinks they need to break up, finally, as she kept setting reminders to do it but always forgot. Emily is vacationing in Nantucket with her new man candy [who I hate]. When he leaves, she spends the day visiting the Nantucket Whaling Museum alone. It is then that she calls Rory, telling her that her house is free for her to go and write her book. And that, she does. Michel becomes unhappy with the interview candidates to fill his spot and Lorelai still does not want him to leave. Lorelai then finds a retirement home that was up for sale and asked Emily’s permission to use the money intended for Luke to buy this property, expand the Inn, and keep her dads memory alive. That night, Rory returns home, to Lorelai’s surprise, with the first three chapters of her book in hand, aptly titled “The Gilmore Girls” *cries* The following day, Rory goes to meet with her dad, Chris. At first, you think this is regarding her book, but it completely foreshadows everything that is aboutt to come. She presses him about how he felt about Lorelai raising her alone. From here on out, everything speeds on by. Emily sells the house to live in Nantucket and work at the whaling museum. Rory runs into Dean at the market. We learn he still looks so good and has three kids with Lindsey, and another on the way. Sookie is back, crazily making cakes for Lorelai and Luke’s wedding. Rory gives Jess her book to read after her mom gives her the ok, and we see that JESS IS STILL NOT OVER HER. *sobs* That night, Lorelei and Luke, 10 hours before their wedding decide to get married after the Pastor left bingo. We see the magical setup that Kirk did for their wedding, centered around the town’s gazebo. We watch Luke and Lorelai finally get married. My heart was so unbelievably full. You think all is hunky dory then BAM. Hellllloooooooo cliff hanger. THE LAST FOUR EPISODES OF THIS SHOW WENT AS FOLLOWS. Rory: “Mom.” Lorelai: “What?” Rory: “I’m pregnant.” You expect for Lorelai to be like holy shit kid who is the dad? Do you even know? Are you done sleeping around? Are you gonna be a kickass single mom like me? But, nope. BAM AGAIN. Screen cuts to black. Credits roll.

Final Thoughts: I never would have thought in a gazillion years that Rory would end up unmarried and pregnant with an unknown baby daddy. She doesn’t end up with anybody. She had a struggling career. She didn’t really live up to anybody’s expectations at all. But, hey! Life happens, right? [I really am not calm I am so mad they ended it like this]. Some things I want to know: I want to know what Lorelai and Luke’s wedding ceremony was like the following day. I want to know if Rory’s book gets published by Jess’s publishing company, because that would be the sweetest thing ever. I want to know if Logan is the father of this baby. I want to know if he and Odette ever get married, or if he breaks it off to be with Rory. [I mean, he clearly still loves her – he still calls her Ace]. I SECRETLY WANT JESS TO BE THE BABY DADDY. I want to know if Lorelai and Luke have another kid via Paris’ surrogacy company. If the Dragonfly Inn expands to all of Michel’s desires. If Emily remains at peace. If they ever pick out Richard’s headstone. If Stars Hollow gets a Starbucks. I NEED TO KNOW. I am hoping this major cliff hanger means more episodes are coming, but who knows. Overall, I would rate this revival series somewhere in the B or B+ range. I really did not love it. But I didn’t completely hate it either.

If you made it through this entire thing, I bless you. I want to know, if you watched this, what did you think? Let me know. xoxo.

Reasons to go see Beauty and the Beast [no matter what the media says].

I am going to start off by saying I freaking love Beauty and the Beast. I remember watching this movie over and over and over again as a child, and even going to see it at the IMAX theatre when they “released it from the Disney Vault” in 2002-ish. [I went to Disney World for the first time at age 3 – I think I begged to met Belle and Beast 14 times that trip].

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Naturally, this live-action rebuttal of this Disney classic had me feeling butterflies everyday since I knew this would even be a thing. Last Saturday night, I saw the movie. And I can honestly say, it exceeded my already super-high expectations.

I am going to start off on a negative note, and then head to the positive. Today’s media sucks. This is no secret whatsoever. The media finds both the bad and the good in everything, but lately, it seems like the focus is on everything bad. Prior to seeing this movie, I was devastated to think that people were not only boycotting the film, but Disney in general because they portrayed LeFou, Gaston’s sidekick, as an openly gay character.

If your faith leads you to believe that homosexuality is a sin, that is absolutely fine. That is your opinion, your beliefs, your faith, and I will never, ever tell you that you are wrong for what you believe. I will say, however, that the media way overshot this preconceived notion of a “gay ending” to this film, and that there is absolutely no reason for any backlash or protests whatsoever. The film is family and faith friendly, I promise.

This “gay ending” went exactly like this [ALERT: if you didn’t see it and don’t want to know what happens, don’t read this] – LeFou was dancing with a female dance partner, got mixed up during one of the turns, ended up dancing with a male, and the camera panned away. This literally lasted all of 0.003 seconds. This bit was so insignificant to the film, that when my boyfriend and I discussed this topic after watching it, he had no idea what I was even talking about.

Now onto the good. Holy cow did I love this film. Emma Watson as Belle, are we kidding? Could she be any more beautiful? Could she be any more of a bad-ass princess? No, no she could not. I love that she did not want to be portrayed as a frilly, dainty, weak princess but rather as a heroine who was not afraid to fight back. #GIRLPOWER to the extreme. Plus, how crazy is it that this new generation will not know Emma as Hermione, but as Belle?! WILD.

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I am going to see this again, no doubt. And I will probably see it more after that, and preorder the DVD and watch it until it breaks. For real.

Here are my top reasons to go see this film [and enjoy every second of it]:

  1. Emma Watson. No further explanation needed. You will love her in this role approximately 0.0001 seconds after they show her on screen for the first time.
  2. Luke Evans and Josh Gad as Gaston and LeFou. They played these roles to an absolute T. The casting director deserves every good thing coming his way, because this match could not have been any better.
  3. The costuming. I leaned over to my boyfriend not even 10 seconds into the film and said “I bet you $20 the costuming is nominated for an Oscar next season, maybe even winning.” Every single outfit was breathtaking. Every. Single. One.
  4. The soundtrack. I am guilty of downloading the soundtrack immediately the next morning, and I really haven’t been able to stop listening to it. It’s pathetic, I know. But it is just soooooo good.
  5. The Beast, post Beast as a human prince. Hot, hot, hot.
  6. EVERYTHING. I have no complaints, so I will end this list before I ramble on about the entire movie [and spoil it for people who have not seen it yet].

The soundtrack, A+, the costuming A+, the film itself, A+++++. Go. You won’t regret it. xoxo.

New music from Ed Sheeran?! 


I repeat..NEW MUSIC FROM ED SHEERAN! It may have only been since 2015 since he gave us something new, but those 2 years felt like 20. Am I right!?

I was perfectly okay with the release of a new single, but then I saw it. There were not only one, but two, and I could not contain my excitement!

Shape of You and Castle on the Hill weren’t done in typical Ed fashion, but boy, to me, they were done perfectly. It’s like in the last 2 years, Ed found an entire new side of himself and I love it. Synthesized beats, a compelling chorus, and fast pace melodies make me so excited for this new album to be released [finally]. He’s back and he’s not messing around!

Find these songs. Sit there. And listen. I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Thank you Ed, you rock. xoxo.

Softer than a baby’s bottom.

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So, as we all now know, yesterday was my birthday. With a birthday, comes the free birthday perks from different retailers and restaurants. So yesterday, I “treated” myself to a [free] venti chai latte from Starbucks, a [free] pastry from Panera, and some free little perks from Ulta.

I just recently became more aware of the wonderful world of makeup. Up until about a year or so ago, I couldn’t give a crap about any of it. The entirety of my makeup routine consisted of $5 mascara from Target and maybe some Chapstick. *cringes* I am still shaky when it comes to achieving the perfect makeup look, but I can surely pat myself on the back for my liquid winged eyeliner abilities.

Anywho, yesterday little ol’ me goes bopping into Ulta with my boyfriend ready to spend some money. I was running low on a few things, and I had my birthday coupon in tow. I desperately needed a face cream, as my face has been so dry lately, I’m patiently waiting for a camel to waltz across it.

I had been reading up on various face moisturizers to try on different websites, so I had a couple in mind that I wanted to look at. When I got into the store, I asked one of the girls working there what she would recommend. One of these items was the Total Moisture Facial Cream by Benefit. I had read great things about this cream online, so when this was also suggested to me in person, I figured I’d try it. And let me tell youpurchasing this is one of the best decisions I have ever made.

I have always wanted to try Benefit products, but could never justify spending the money on them. This cream is retailed at $42 for a 1.7oz tub, which is way more than I would ever pay for a skin care product. But, all Benefit products are 25% off this week and after my coupon, I walked out paying $20 for this item!

So far, I used it last night and this morning and my skin feels light and airy and is so extremely soft, I keep wanting to touch my face! It hasn’t been more than 24 hours and I already feel a huge difference in my skin. I would highly recommend this moisturizer to anyone who, like me, is struggling with extremely dry winter skin.

I hope this helps at least one person. xoxo.