25 things I’ve learned in 25 years.

Guys, I’ve made it to quarter life.

I’ve officially been plopped down onto this Earth for 25 years now and, quite frankly, I still feel as if I should be awaiting my “monumental” 21st birthday. I don’t really know where all these years have gone, but I know they’ve happened because, obviously, today is my birthday!

Last year, I posted 24 things I wanted to accomplish and focus on. While I didn’t accomplish all of these things, I did accomplish some – I’d like to think the important ones! So, in honor of my 25th birthday, I am compiling a list of 25 things that I have learned throughout this [crazy] thing called life.

  1. There is no better drink than a fresh cup of coffee.
  2. Family is the most important thing in your life. Don’t let them go unappreciated.
  3. There are friends who will come and go. You shouldn’t get caught up on these friends; you should appreciate the constant friends who have stuck by your side through it all.
  4. Travel as much as you can, especially while you have the time.
  5. It is totally not worth looking “cute” in the winter. Bundle yourself up and keep warm. The only ones who will judge you looking like a marshmallow are the ones who are freezing cold.
  6. Mental health is important. Take a step back and a deep breath when you need it.
  7. College [whether going for an associates, bachelor’s or master’s degree] is one of the hardest paths you will ever walk upon. But in the end, to say you made it is all worth it.
  8. And speaking of college, you totally don’t need to pay full price for textbooks. Rent those suckers!
  9. It’s totally okay to eat donuts for breakfast.
  10. You can never have too many lipsticks.
  11. Or pairs of shoes.
  12. Knowing when to say “no” is the greatest strength you can have.
  13. Cut off all of your hair. Even if you don’t like it, it always grows back.
  14. Never compare yourself to anyone else. You are you for a reason. Embrace it.
  15. Seafood is definitely disgusting.
  16. Go ahead and binge watch shows on Netflix. It’s absolutely socially acceptable.
  17. Guinea pigs make for the best pets.
  18. And it’s totally okay to stalk puppy instagrams.
  19. 90’s alternative music is meant to be sung at the top of your lungs.
  20. Have a dance party in your kitchen. You will feel totally liberated.
  21. Pinterest saves lives. You will find everything you need on one website.
  22. Your one true love is out there. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
  23. Always order dessert.
  24. Budget the heck out of your money.
  25. Your happiness is, and always be, the thing that matters the most.

Here’s to being another year older! Can’t wait to see what this year brings. xoxo.

2017: A year in review.

Hello 2018! Here’s to the next few months of continuing to write 2017 on every document that needs to be signed and dated!

I don’t know about you, but for me, 2017 was one of my craziest, life-changing, challenging years yet. So many things have happened this year that when I look back on it as a whole, it’s hard to believe that all of these things happened in a short 365 day span. I feel like the entirety of this year felt as if it lasted about 3 months, and I am in disbelief that an entire year has ended and we are now inching ourselves into this new chapter of our lives.

This year, I started a new job in my field that has proven to be challenging, but even more rewarding than I could have ever imagined, solidifying the fact that I have found my passion and purpose in life. I completed my Master’s degree, a feat that I am proud of for having the courage to change my path and find my happiness, regardless of the opinions of others. I watched my brother win a state championship for hockey and then graduate from high school and move out of state for college, something that makes me prouder than I have ever felt in my entire life. I fell more in love with my best friend, proving that I am lucky every single day of my life to have someone that supports me through everything and anything I wish to achieve, and spoils me more than I even deserve. My family remains happy, healthy, and tightly knit, something that I continue to be thankful for with each passing day. I experienced a devastating loss of a friend to suicide, shaking me to my core, yet pushing me to be stronger and to continue to advocate for the well-being of all those suffering with mental health. I watched my best friend get into dental school, solidifying a future so deserved to the person that is my constant rock and support through this crazy thing called life. Also in the mix can be outings at concerts and sporting events, spending time with family and friends, travel experiences, good meals, deep conversations, dancing without a care, singing at the top of my lungs, decorating a home, purchasing a new car, bettering myself, and experiencing all life has to offer while trying to live it to the fullest.

In terms of this journey owning and operating as told by gab? As most of you know, I started this blog last year as a New Year’s resolution to myself. While I had “started” this page earlier than January, I vowed to religiously keep up with this blog, post frequently, and build a name for myself. Running a blog was something that I had always wanted to do, but never had the courage or the drive to actually complete it. I didn’t think anyone would care about anything I had to say, but I felt like there was so much in me that needed to be expressed and needed to be shared. I was going through a rough patch and honestly, I needed a hobby. Did I do a hell of a job at running this site? Absolutely not. Some months were harder than others, and I found myself uninspired and struggling to come up with things to write. There were times that I didn’t see the fun in running this page and I didn’t care if days went by without any activity. But, although I wasn’t religious with my posting and I didn’t quite make a name for myself in the blogging community [yet], I still kept with it and eventually circled back to becoming more inspired and finding more fun in doing this. I feel like I ended 2017 on a high with my site and I can’t wait to push forward into the next year – especially now that I won’t have the guilt of “ignoring” school or any impending assignments hanging over my head!

So from the bottom of my heart, I want to thank all of you who have stuck around on this crazy ride with me. Here’s to making more memories. . together! xoxo.

Quarter life crisis?!

Yesterday, the above “meme” came up on my Facebook feed as I was aimlessly scrolling through while cozied up on my couch. It was weird to see this because, I kid you not, a couple hours earlier it hit me that *holy shit, I’m gonna be 25 in a week*, and I texted by boyfriend something along the lines of *why the heck am I so old?* wondering when my 21st birthday ever escaped me.

I feel like every young person, or maybe it was just me, feels like 25 is the age in which you should have your entire life laid out and put together and not feel like you’re sitting in a burning room wondering where the hell you go from here. Dramatic? Yes. But for real. . 17-18 year old me really, really, thought that by 25 I’d be sitting in my own house cozied on the couch with my husband, with my children and my dogs running around frantically, making a shit ton of money and loving every single second of my perfect life. I can remember thinking to myself that I wanted at least one kid by 25 so “I’m not an old mom.” [Really, someone go back in time and knock some sense into me]. So, when the realization of *holy shit, I’m gonna be 25 in a week* hit me, I did one of those nervous laughs where I didn’t know if I actually thought it was funny that I thought I’d have it all together, or I was trying to mask the fact that I was about to cry at the fact I don’t have any of these things.

With all joking aside, though, maybe you do have the “perfect life” you dreamed of at 17 by age 25. And if you do, I am in awe of you for getting your shit together and doing the damn thing. But the reality of it is, or at least for me, I am no where near where I want to be. And although I am not there, I am still happy.

Do I have my own house? Absolutely not.

Am I married? Girl, I’m not even engaged.

Do I have kids? Hell no, why did I ever think I’d want kids at this age.

Do I have a dog? Nope, but I have a fat little guinea pig. 

Am I rich, bathing in a tub full of money while my butler hands me glasses of champagne? No, but I am financially stable. 

Although the answers to these questions are totally not what I expected them to be one week out of 25 years old, they are the answers that I am happy with at this stage in my life. I am blessed with the life that I have and I am happy knowing that the path that I am creating is one that will lead me to achieving all of the above goals, just not right now. I don’t know why I continue to think 25 is old because, well, I have a good 70+ years ahead of me. I have time to figure it out. We all have time to figure it out. Just keep moving down your “perfect” path.

We’ll get there, together. xoxo.

A post dedicated to my heart + soul

Yesterday was Jon and my anniversary. With each passing year I am more and more in disbelief that 365 more days really have gone by. I don’t know what I ever did to deserve someone so caring, kind, and as special as him, but good God, am I thankful.

I’ve never felt more at home with someone physically, mentally, emotionally – you are my shelter when I need it most. You give me a sense of comfort and dependence. You are my best friend and are there for me through anything and everything, never letting me face it alone. You’ve taught me how to prioritize my own needs and make myself happy.

There is so much I could thank you for that I could write an entire book. So for the sake of this blog and my readers near and far, I will leave it at this: thank you for being ranked among my father and my grandfather as one of the most honorable, honest, caring men I know; thank you for sharing your family with me and giving me more people to open my heart to; thank you for taking me on countless adventures; thank you for not pushing me out of the car when I sing along to every song; thank you for supporting me through my Master’s degree and pushing me to advocate for what I believe in; thank you for listening to me complain about how tired I am everyday after work, even if it’s only 3:30pm; thank you for sharing bags of popcorn in bed when we binge on Bob’s Burgers.

Thank you for loving me unconditionally through all the ups and downs. For loving me when I talk to our guinea pig like he is a real life baby. For loving me when I am moody and hungry and ready to kill anything that breathes. For loving me when I am bouncing off the walls after drinking one-too-many cups of Starbucks. For loving me when I buy unnecessary things for the apartment at Target that we “have to have.” For loving me when I can’t find it in me to love myself.

I am overwhelmed with love and forever indebted to you for all you have done for me. Nothing I say or do could ever amount to the countless thanks and appreciation I have for you.

I look forward to the years ahead, going on more adventures, and snuggling on our brand new IKEA couch (!!!).

I love you.

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Pack it up, pack it up. 


Today’s day consisted of bringing this 12-seated beauty into our lives to pack up my brothers room and send him off to college. Right now, it’s about 10:30PM, making it only 7 hours until we are en route to Akron, Ohio. Packing up this beauty is undoubtedly the easy part of this journey, but I am so excited. Both for him, and for the fact that I will finally be seeing this campus for the first time tomorrow [my family has been there 4x already, but sadly, I was at work]. 

Onward and upward. Here we go. xoxo. 

Life update!? 


As the summer of things that change continues to roll on, more things are continuing to change. We are now one week away from my brother moving away to college. One. Freaking. Week. How is this possible? I’m not sure, but it’s happening. 

I had a nice three day vacation from work [well, five days if you include the weekend] that was so much needed, I can’t even begin to explain this to you. The day I went back, the phone in my classroom was immediately ringing at 8am and it was HR calling to tell me about my 6-month review [already!?] and that they wanted to offer me a promotion. I could not believe it. So another added change, I’ll have a new class with new kids after our two week break come September. 

Also happening within those seven days since my last post, my boyfriend got a new car, I dyed most of my hair blonde, I actually went out this weekend, and I saw a long lost friend back to town on her honeymoon. 

What does this prove? Honestly, a pretty big point – whether it’s the color of your hair, the make and model of your car, or a new job title, things are always changing, no matter how big or small. It’s our job to take it all in stride. xoxo. 

7 of 12, done. 


I feel like the more I blink, the faster the months go by. July has come and gone faster than a speeding bullet, and I feel that at the pace we are going, 2017 will be over with. My calendar this month was so extremely full that I feel like it wasn’t even really a “summer vacation.” 

This July consisted of: 

  • A Fourth of July celebration 
  • Multiple grad parties between both my family, my boyfriend’s family, and multiple family friends 
  • Family reunions and picnics for both my and my boyfriend’s families 
  • A day trip to Erie, PA 
  • Working a summer camp 
  • Getting my new ‘batch’ of students and beginning the upcoming school year 
  • A day trip to Canandaigua, NY 
  • Beginning and completing a summer class [that I never thought I’d survive] 
  • Many days and nights spent with friends and family
  • Eating copious amounts of ice cream, my favorite part of summer 

August is a month that seemed so far away only a few short months ago. So much is about to happen and so much is about to change this month, that there definitely will not be a shortage in terms of things to talk about on this blog. I will be experiencing new things, and will, undoubtedly, have many things going through my mind. xoxo. 

Life.

Keeping in tune with yesterday’s post, today I am including bible verses focused on the sanctity of your life. I’ve found within the last year that looking to the Bible for guidance in times of need has really helped. *Shoutout to Catholic education for making me [eventually] realize this.*

1 Peter 3:10-11 For, Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.

1 Timothy 4:12 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.

Ecclesiastes 7:10 Do not say, “Why were the old days better than these?” For it is not wise to ask such questions.

Ephesians 5:15-16 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.

Matthew 6:25 Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

Proverbs 13:3 Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.

Proverbs 21:21 Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honor.

Keep on keepin’ on, my friends. xoxo.

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Live like you’re dying.

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Who remembers way back in 2009 when Kris Allen won American Idol? Probably not too many of us, right? But, one thing I do remember [somehow] is his first single after winning the show called Live Like We’re Dying. For those of you who don’t remember, or don’t know what in the hell I’m talking about, here’s a snippet of some of the song’s lyrics:

We gotta start looking at the hands of the time we’ve been given. If this is all we got and we gotta start thinking, if every second counts on a clock that’s ticking, gotta live like we’re dying. We only got 86,400 seconds in a day to turn it all around or to throw it all away. Gotta tell em’ that we love em’ while we got the chance to say, gotta live like we’re dying. 

A lot has happened recently and has changed the way I look at life. Life of a loved one has been lost. Life of a loved one has been given an expiration date. I’ve started to really realize that your entire life can change in the matter of, no joke, one day, so why are we wasting time on the things that don’t matter?

Why are we sweating the small stuff? Why are we holding grudges? Why aren’t we focusing on what really matters to us? Why are we not going for what we truly want in life? Why are we not seizing the day?

It shouldn’t take an expiration date to kick start the best moments of our lives. You should be living your best life right now.

I would love to know what you are achieving, the dreams you are dreaming, and the things you are doing to live your best life. Spread the love. Start the wave. xoxo.