“Weekends are a bit like rainbows; they look good from a distance but disappear when you get up close to them.” – John Shirley

Today was one of those Friday’s that made me thank God for the weekend. This week felt so long, and today felt like a new week in it of itself. 
I came home from work + after school with a killer migraine. So, homework is a no. A decent blog post is a no. Laying in bed in a pitch black room is a definite yes. Cheers to the freakin’ weekend. Let’s thank God that tomorrow is a new day. xoxo. 

Relaxing..fact or fiction? 

After a long day [or days] of work, one thing that everyone likes to do is enjoy some leisure or relaxation time. Time to yourself enjoying things that you want to do for fun. Lately, I feel like my relaxation or leisure time has been few and far between. There is one thing I’ve noticed though that makes me wonder if this time is even considered relaxation at all. 

When I am enjoying come down time, I am not really “down.” My mind is constantly racing. Constantly thinking about things I still have to do that day, week, or month. Constantly thinking about things that happened that day. What I could have done better vs. what I was proud of. What I’m going to have for dinner. Where I am going to get coffee in the morning. It really never ends. My mind is constantly racing, thinking about absolutely everything. 

I have tried so many ways to go about everything to clear my mind, but I can never seem to get it to stop. Usually total relaxation comes when I am so burnt out that my body tells me I need to shut off, and I end up passing out and taking a nap. While this time spent is worry free, I wake up and not even 0.4 seconds later, my mind is nonstop again. 

If you have any insights on ways to relax or simply shut off a constantly running mind, hit your girl up and let me know. I love learning new things and welcome everyone’s opinions and experiences with open arms. xoxo. 

Reasons to go see Beauty and the Beast [no matter what the media says].

I am going to start off by saying I freaking love Beauty and the Beast. I remember watching this movie over and over and over again as a child, and even going to see it at the IMAX theatre when they “released it from the Disney Vault” in 2002-ish. [I went to Disney World for the first time at age 3 – I think I begged to met Belle and Beast 14 times that trip].

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Naturally, this live-action rebuttal of this Disney classic had me feeling butterflies everyday since I knew this would even be a thing. Last Saturday night, I saw the movie. And I can honestly say, it exceeded my already super-high expectations.

I am going to start off on a negative note, and then head to the positive. Today’s media sucks. This is no secret whatsoever. The media finds both the bad and the good in everything, but lately, it seems like the focus is on everything bad. Prior to seeing this movie, I was devastated to think that people were not only boycotting the film, but Disney in general because they portrayed LeFou, Gaston’s sidekick, as an openly gay character.

If your faith leads you to believe that homosexuality is a sin, that is absolutely fine. That is your opinion, your beliefs, your faith, and I will never, ever tell you that you are wrong for what you believe. I will say, however, that the media way overshot this preconceived notion of a “gay ending” to this film, and that there is absolutely no reason for any backlash or protests whatsoever. The film is family and faith friendly, I promise.

This “gay ending” went exactly like this [ALERT: if you didn’t see it and don’t want to know what happens, don’t read this] – LeFou was dancing with a female dance partner, got mixed up during one of the turns, ended up dancing with a male, and the camera panned away. This literally lasted all of 0.003 seconds. This bit was so insignificant to the film, that when my boyfriend and I discussed this topic after watching it, he had no idea what I was even talking about.

Now onto the good. Holy cow did I love this film. Emma Watson as Belle, are we kidding? Could she be any more beautiful? Could she be any more of a bad-ass princess? No, no she could not. I love that she did not want to be portrayed as a frilly, dainty, weak princess but rather as a heroine who was not afraid to fight back. #GIRLPOWER to the extreme. Plus, how crazy is it that this new generation will not know Emma as Hermione, but as Belle?! WILD.


I am going to see this again, no doubt. And I will probably see it more after that, and preorder the DVD and watch it until it breaks. For real.

Here are my top reasons to go see this film [and enjoy every second of it]:

  1. Emma Watson. No further explanation needed. You will love her in this role approximately 0.0001 seconds after they show her on screen for the first time.
  2. Luke Evans and Josh Gad as Gaston and LeFou. They played these roles to an absolute T. The casting director deserves every good thing coming his way, because this match could not have been any better.
  3. The costuming. I leaned over to my boyfriend not even 10 seconds into the film and said “I bet you $20 the costuming is nominated for an Oscar next season, maybe even winning.” Every single outfit was breathtaking. Every. Single. One.
  4. The soundtrack. I am guilty of downloading the soundtrack immediately the next morning, and I really haven’t been able to stop listening to it. It’s pathetic, I know. But it is just soooooo good.
  5. The Beast, post Beast as a human prince. Hot, hot, hot.
  6. EVERYTHING. I have no complaints, so I will end this list before I ramble on about the entire movie [and spoil it for people who have not seen it yet].

The soundtrack, A+, the costuming A+, the film itself, A+++++. Go. You won’t regret it. xoxo.

Should marriage define you?


It’s no secret that I have recently started a new job. With a new job comes a new circle of friends and acquaintances. In my line of work, my classroom team is something that needs to be established almost immediately. We will experience some of the best and worst moments together, so it is only natural to get to know these people to the fullest extent possible.

One thing that has been driving me [kind-of] crazy these last few weeks are these simple conversations that have all started the exact same way, and go something a little like this:

Co-worker: “How old are you?”

Me: “24.’

Co-worker: “Oh, are you married?!”

Me: “No.”

Co-worker: “Oh….why?”

Most girls would be lying if they said they didn’t plan their dream wedding at the tender age of 5. I am just as guilty of this as the next person. Heck, I have an entire Pinterest board dedicated to wedding ideas. Again, who doesn’t?

Back when I was in high school, actually maybe as young as middle school, I had this dream of being married and having my first kid by age 25. Well, here I am at 24 and neither of these things are happening. But am I devastated? Absolutely not.

I am at that age now that I would basically consider awkward. Half of my friends are either engaged, getting married, are married, are announcing a pregnancy, or have kids… while the other half are still out bar-crawling until 4am eating chicken nuggets in the McDonalds drive thru. The catch? While my friends and I are in these totally polar opposite points of their life, we are all equally happy.

I am currently in a long-term relationship with a guy I would consider to be the man of my dreams. Being in this relationship has made me [further] realize how poorly I was treated in my past. I am with someone who loves me, flaws and all. Who tells me every day how proud he is of me, how he knows how hard I work, and how I deserve the world. We love hard and we fight for each other harder. Am I happy? Yes. Am I married? No.

We will get married one day, but not one day soon. Do I care? Not at all. But why is this not good enough? Why  is it that when I say no that I am not married that the immediate response is negative? There are days that I basically feel as if I am already married. We already do everything together, things that my married friends do, so essentially what would a piece of paper change?

There are so many other [amazing] qualities that I, as well as every woman [or man] should be defined by. We shouldn’t be defined based on our relationship status. We should be defined by our qualifications – our hard work, our ethics and values, our personalities. We don’t need to depend on others to be remarkable people – we are capable of conquering the world all on our own.

I don’t know everything and I never will. But if there is one thing I do know, it is that I am happier now than I have ever been and, to me, that should be good enough. xoxo.





Unless you live under a rock, you have to know what catfishing is. I, like I am sure most people, get sucked into the madness that is Catfish, the TV show on MTV. Just this morning, as a matter of fact, I have been sitting here watching this show for hours.

I don’t know if it is because I am semi-old or because I have a little pinch of common sense, but I really just don’t get this entire thing at all.

Firstly, I don’t know why anyone would become friends online with a stranger that they have never met that lives states or countries away. Secondly, I don’t know how you can whole heartedly trust someone that you have never met face to face. Thirdly, I don’t know how you can keep trusting people or be in a relationship with them for years on end without getting so much as a phone call or a video chat. Our society has fabricated this entire phenomenon to the point that it is more common than not, and I am left wondering…why?

I, for one, would be absolutely terrified to open up to someone that I do not know. But these people on this show, just this morning alone, have been in relationships, sent money, expressed true feelings of love to a stranger. Heck, the one girl found out the guy she was talking to was a fugitive on the run who escaped to an island off the coast of Alaska and she was sending him hundreds of thousands of dollars! Normal, right?

On the flip side, I am wondering what makes someone wake up one morning and decide to make a fake profile, meet people online, use them for years, and feel no remorse whatsoever. Or even if their feelings are real, how they continue to lie and carry on about a life they do not have or a person they are not.

It’s one of those shows that I cannot turn away from once it is on because I just don’t understand it at all. I am left wondering how and why people are so naive. It honestly makes me afraid for my future children to someday be plopped into this world because if we have to worry about this stuff now, in 2017, what will we have to worry about in the next few years? Lord only knows. xoxo.

Things I’m currently obsessed with, 4.0


It has been a while since I’ve done a post like this, so welcome back! Here’s some things I currently can’t get enough of:

  1. Drake. It’s no secret that Drake dropped his new album, More Life. It is also no secret that I am absolutely, whole-heartedly obsessed with Drake. What made my soul beam from the mountaintops is the fact that Drake literally gave Niagara Falls and Buffalo a quick little shoutout in his song ‘Can’t Have Everything.’ That’s just one gem off this 22 song album, so I suggest you go listen.
  2. The Mindy Project. I realize that I am probably a little behind on this trend, as I usually am when it comes to TV shows. I just recently in the last couple of months signed up for Hulu and was introduced to a whole entire new world of TV and movies that I normally would never give the light of day, The Mindy Project being one of them. This show is absolutely freaking hilarious and is the prefect little pick me up if you need a good laugh on a day when you would just rather a) cry or b) kill someone.
  3. Mediterranean Veggie Burgers. This past weekend, my boyfriend brought up the topic of veggie burgers a handful of times [for God knows what reason], so I decided to try it out. I went to my nearest Wegmans and picked up a pack of Morning Star Mediterranean Chickpea Burgers. They are made with chickpeas, spinach, and roma tomatoes and contain 10g of protein, 7g of fiber, and 70% less fat than ground beef. I paired them with red pepper hummus and a little onion on a whole wheat flatbread. Ahhhhmazing.
  4. Blistex Lip Medex Lip Protectant. This winter has absolutely killed my lips in terms of dryness. I am struggling to even wear any lipsticks out of my way too large collection because my lips get so dry, that they physically hurt. So far, this Blister is the absolute only thing that has worked for me. My lips are moisturized and they look healthy. Plus it is under $2, so everyone wins!


Cleanses, good for the soul?!

After a long weekend full of St. Patrick’s day themed adventures, I could not be any happier to be in my bed at 9:26pm on a Monday night.

I mean, how could you not participate in St. Paddy’s activities when your city has been named the #1 place to celebrate by USA Today?

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Since Thursday, it seems as if I haven’t eaten anything that was not classified as fast food or had a drink that didn’t have at least one drop of alcohol in it. Today, it all hit me like a train zooming down the tracks at dance class. I felt disgusting, tired, and fat, and like I never wanted to eat another slice of pizza ever again. [Disclaimer: this will probably never happen].

So, here I am looking up ways to do a much needed detox. So far, here’s what I’ve found:

  1. Chug lemon water. Or if lemon doesn’t float your boat, use cucumber.
  2. Raw foods rock. Even juice cleanses are considered a raw food diet.
  3. Sweat it out. Exercise until you feel like you’re going to vomit.
  4. Meditate to reduce stress and increase body function.
  5. Cut sugar intake.
  6. Drink tea, not coffee.
  7. Go for the foods labeled organic.

If you have any tips on how to detox, or know anything that has worked for you/a friend/a neighbor, hit a girl up. I am ready to learn and ready to eliminate these toxins! xoxo.


New hair, who dis??

The two-day hiatus has been a result of work, homework, St. Patrick’s Day, etc. etc. I know that isn’t an excuse but stress got the absolute best of me and mentally I was all over the place. So hello everyone, hope all is well and you didn’t drink too many green beers yesterday.

Today, I woke up early to chop my hair. Literally. My hair is gone but I am obsessed. I already love how low maintenance this haircut is. And the fact that I can still wear my hair in a half-up topknot because as we all know, that’s my go-to. I haven’t really got used to the whole running-my-hands-through-my-nonexistent-hair thing yet (cue Kristen Stewart memes), but I love it. I had my hair cut like this for honestly most of my entire life up until college when I got too lazy to schedule/drive home for a haircut. So I just let it grow and grow and grow up until about a few months ago when I cut it a little shorter. And now, we are here.


My inspiration came from, none other than, Pinterest. Just some random photos that I had saved over the years. For anyone out there wanting to get a new haircut but is too afraid to try it, do it. It is only hair and it will always grow back! xoxo.

Stella, day two.

I sit here in the midst of snow day number two, staring at the clock wondering how it is only 3:21pm. I feel as though it is way past dinnertime, and I am ready for this whole ‘stuck in the house with barely any food and nothing to do’ thing to be over with. My poor little car is so buried deep in the snow, that I am second guessing ever choosing a Honda Civic over some type of Jeep. *facepalm* Plus, I look out the front window and wonder where the front porch went and if I ever really had one in the first place??


One thing good that I can say came from this winter storm is that basically all people of social media have retracted from their strong political beliefs, and have stayed focused on nothing but the endless piles of snow outside. *whew*

On an even brighter note, I [being extremely, extremely behind] finally started the Gilmore Girls revival series. I was waiting for my mom to finish up the original series on Netflix so we could watch the revival together and, so far, we have gotten through two out of the four episodes. Stay tuned for my overall reaction of the revival series once I’ve completed it, because I already have a feeling I will have a lot to say.

Other than that, I have nothing creative in my mind to write about today, as I have been doing nothing but work on my 80 page [not even exaggerating] research paper/project. So, I feel somewhat creatively and mentally drained. Until tomorrow. xoxo.




Well, it happened. Winter storm Stella hit Western New York. Both my university and the school that I work at were on the list of 430+ closed for a snow day *yikes*. I knew before I went to bed last night so, thankfully, I got to sleep in a little bit this morning! When I woke up, I did not expect it to be bad but let me tell you, it has not stopped snowing. I mean, this is literally what I see right now:

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So, with no stopping in sight anytime soon for us peeps being hit by this storm, here’s a few things you can do to cure your boredom!

  1. Binge watch Netflix or Hulu. Today, I actually got to catch up on some of my shows! And in a big way! I was able to watch the entire new second season of the Netflix original, Love. I also made some major progress on my newest obsession, The Mindy Project, on Hulu. There is nothing better [at least to me] than cozying up on the couch with a bunch of blankets and a hot cup of coffee.
  2. Complete, or get ahead, on assignments. In grad school, I constantly find myself ‘behind’ on my work. I use the term behind very loosely because I am never actually behind, it just feels that way because of all the work that constantly gets piled on day in and day out. Take a day like today with no interruptions and crank out some A+ work! And if you’re all caught up, nothing better than getting ahead!
  3. Organize. It seems like the only time I ever get the motivation to organize my makeup, my clothes, or my room in general, is when I am absolutely bored out of my skull. Use this time wisely!
  4. Online shopping. If you got it, flaunt it. Money, that is. Why not take some of this extra time to treat yourself?! You’ve been working hard. Maybe it’s time you actually bought yourself that top or that eyeshadow palette you’ve been swooning over for weeks! And a major perk of online shopping, you don’t even have to leave the warmth of your own bed!
  5. Bake something sweet or cook a nice dinner. If your significant other, roommate, or BFF wasn’t one of the lucky ones to have today off, I’m sure walking into a nice treat like a hot home cooked meal, or a delicious dessert will perk them up after trekking through the snow all day!

What are some ways you cure your boredom on days like today?! xoxo.

P.S. Anyone at work, out and about, traveling, etc. today, please stay safe!